The trek to Dr. Check

Pretty quickly after my diagnosis I came across a support group community online called FertileThoughts.com.  It made me feel so much better to connect with other woman who were going through similar struggles.  They have tons of different discussion forums to get insight on what has and hasn't worked for other women and couples.  While reading through countless discussions over these past few months, a name kept standing out to me, Dr. Check from the Cooper Inst. in New Jersey.  He specializes in working with women with hormonal and reproductive disorders and has treated many women with FSH over 100.  I never even considered that to be an option for me.  Traveling all the way to the east coast for fertility treatments seemed absurd.  But was it? I was willing to do anything it took, right? So I decided to look into his practice a little more and quickly realized he was the Doctor I wanted to see.  I also found out that he treats many out of town and even out of country patients! It just so happens I have a cousin who lives close to his office in New Jersey and a friend of hers swears by him! He got her pregnant after 4 other doctors told her it would never happen for her. After much consideration I decided that I'm going to give this a shot.  I will head to New Jersey and see if Dr. Check can help me! My cousin graciously told me I could stay with her when I come out. My Grandmother and Aunt paid for the plane tickets for my mom and I to head out there in December! I can't believe it, I'm actually going.  I'm still so thankful for all of the love and support I am receiving from my loved ones, it is making this process so much easier.  My OBGYN had told me not to tell anyone about my diagnosis and I found that quite off-putting.  Why is infertility such a taboo subject? It affects 1 in 8 woman! Everyone knows at least one person struggling with infertility, even if they don't talk about it.  The feelings of embarrassment, guilt, and shame can be so overwhelming; but I have found that it vocalizing my struggles helps me cope with them much easier.  If my story can help just a small fraction of people deal with the pain caused from infertility then I know I'm doing something right.  We are not alone in this.  I would never wish this pain upon my worst enemy, but I'm trying to encourage woman to come out and speak about their unique stories.  My story is nowhere near over but I hope I can help someone along the way.